How To Remove Someone from a Text Message Group on the iPhone
If you want to remove someone from a text message group on the iPhone, it is easier than you might think in iMessage. If you’re using iMessage group message and someone no longer belongs in the group, it isn’t completely impossible to remove them from future communications.
This tutorial will walk you through how to remove users, add users, mute groups, and how to handle trolls in your group.
Remove Someone From Text Message Group In iMessage
Even if you’re not being trolled, being added to a particularly active group can be an inconvenience. Whatever your reasons for wanting to remove someone from a text message group, it’s easy to do on the iPhone, even if the controls are a little hidden.
Just keep in mind that everyone in the group chat needs to be using iMessage (blue chat bubbles); this won’t work with regular SMS or MMS group chats (green chat bubbles). You also need at least three other people in the group chat (four people total) for the Remove option to appear.
You will not see the ‘Remove’ option if:
- There are less than three total members in your group message.
- There is a contact using SMS messaging – Even an iPhone may be using SMS and still appear blue meaning you won’t see the ‘Remove’ option.
- Someone is using a non-apple operating system.
Assuming all conditions are right here is how you remove someone from a group iMessage:
Open the group chat in question from your iMessage app.
Tap on the cluster of icons at the top of the iMessage group.
Tap the ‘i’ that appears on the right to open the list of group members.
Swipe left on the name of the person you’d like to remove and tap ‘Remove’ when it appears to the right. If you can’t swipe to reveal the ‘Remove’ option see the disclaimer above.
Select Remove when the popup appears.
This immediately removes that individual from your message group. If you don’t have the option to ‘Remove’ then you’ll have to start a new thread without the unwanted contact. The chat history will still remain on your phone but they won’t receive any new ones as long as you send your texts in the new group and not the old one.
Removing Yourself From a Group iMessage
There is an option to remove yourself from an iMessage group assuming the above-listed criteria are met. If someone adds you to a group that you don’t want to be in, follow these steps:
Open the group iMessage just as you did before and click on the small ‘i’ under the profile pictures.
Scroll down the information page and tap on ‘Leave this conversation.’
Adding Someone to a Group iMessage
Fortunately, if you missed a contact you can add one later on. The same admittedly strange criteria above apply so if there’s an SMS user in the group you won’t be able to pull this off.
Open the information page just as we’ve done above, and tap on the option ‘+ Add Contact.’ Choose the contact and add them to the group like you normally would.
Mute A Conversation In iMessage
If you’re not ready to leave the conversation but you’d like to take a break, you can hide the alerts. This involves less hassle and saves you from a confrontation.
- Open the group chat on your iPhone and tap the circle of profile pictures at the top of the window
- Tap the ‘i‘ option when it appears to view the list of group members.
- Select Hide Alerts at the bottom of the group window.
This will stop any conversation alerts from hitting your phone, effectively ignoring them.
You can also stop messages from an individual in a group too.
- Open the group chat on your iPhone.
- Select the blue ‘i’ for Info icon in the top right to open the list of group members.
- Select the individual you want to block and select Block this Caller.
- Go back to the Group window and select Done.
That last step is important as iMessage won’t always block the person unless you confirm in the group window.
Blocking a Contact
If you’re all out of options, consider blocking a contact. Assuming you can’t leave a group you never asked to be in (such as a spammer), your only option is to block people in the group.
If this is the option you’re bound to take we have a full tutorial here on how to do it.
Frequently Asked Questions
Being confined to limitations in a group iMessage can be infuriating, here are the answers to some more of your questions that will help you take control of your communications.
Can I delete the entire group?
Unfortunately, no. You can swipe to remove the conversation but everyone else will remain in the group.
Can I update the contact information for someone in the group?
Yes, using the ‘i’ mentioned above, you should have access to update the users’ phone numbers. If it does not update properly simply add the new contact to the group.
Start A New Group Chat That Excludes The Troll
If you’re not the one who initiated the group chat and others are responding to the troll, you may have to just remove yourself from the group chat, then start a new message group that excludes the troll. If you then send a message letting the group know why you’ve started the new message group, then people can mute or remove themselves from the original group and continue the more civil conversation in the new group.
Handing Trolls In Message Groups
Every village has its idiot the same as every social network or message group has its troll. Social media and group conversations have provided a platform for everyone to have their say and, unfortunately, the old adage, “If you don’t anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all,” seems to have been forgotten in many corners of the Internet.
If you’re the target of a toxic individual, learning how to handle them can avoid having to pull away from groups or social media and provide genuine peace of mind.
Here are a few ways to handle trolls online.
Don’t Feed The Troll
Everyone has heard the saying ‘Don’t feed the troll’. That’s because it’s true. Most people who act out online need feedback from their victims to thrive. If you deny them the attention or conflict they crave, they will soon stop and move on. Trolls crave attention and emotional responses so if the troll doesn’t get a response then their trolling attempt fails.
When people say ‘ignore them and they will go away’ there is a genuine psychological reason for that. It’s like a feedback loop. Someone says something just to get a reaction. Any reaction they do get feeds them and encourages more. Don’t feed that need and they are driven to get their satiation somewhere else.
Remember, the number one rule for handling Trolls is: Don’t feed the trolls.
Keep Your Cool
In a group situation, it’s very easy to come out on top of a troll by maintaining your cool. Even if you’re shouting or throwing things in your room, as long as you’re a cool customer in the group chat, you will win.
That means not responding in kind or stooping to their level and responding in a reasoned and reasonable way if you have to respond at all. In most situations, it’s best to not respond at all as soon as you realize someone’s a troll. It sometimes takes a bit of interaction for it to dawn on you that you’re dealing with a troll.
If you find that you and others have already reacted to the troll, giving them attention, it’s still not too late to stop feeding the troll, starving the troll, and letting the conflict lose momentum.
Don’t Give Them An Excuse
Oftentimes, people troll us because we allow them to do so. Consider what you say online and how it could be taken or misconstrued. We have all seen how a tweet or message has been taken out of context and ended up in a flame war with the original message being deleted along with that person’s user account.
Not getting to that point can have serious benefits to your mental health. Spending an extra two seconds reading your message or taking a breath and thinking before responding to a message can avoid being trolled altogether. Trolls aren’t worth the stress and emotional energy.
Remember, don’t feed the trolls.
Do you have any suggestions for how to avoid trolls in text messaging groups, social media, and online forums? If so, please comment below.